Early Body Piercing a Sign of Danger Ahead

MomTalk Q&A: What's the protocol when a tween goes to school with a piercing?

Last weekend while shopping with my daughter, I came across an interesting scene. A young boy, about 12 years old, was sitting in a chair in Claire's boutique. A man, most likely his father, was lurking anxiously with a younger boy through the stands of jewelry when the employee asked the seated boy as she raised the ear-piercing gun, "Are you ready?"

Before the boy could answer, the father replied, "He might be but I don't know that I am."

The father's discomfort was tangible.

Was this a case of a father trying to be a friend instead of a parent?

What will happen to the boy when he goes to school? With today's strict school dress codes, will the boy be allowed to wear the earring as is required for new piercings? So many questions.

Late last year, a 14-year-old North Carolina girl was suspended from school for violating the school's dress code when she refused to remove her nose piercing. The girl cited religious reasons for the piercing.

So I wondered just how distracting is a pierced ear or a small nose stud. Is it something that a school should take issue with when there are far worse things, like guns and knives, to consider?  

Is the father inadvertently putting his son on a dangerous path? And where should a school draw the line when it comes to body modification? Does age matter?

Kaity Carroll May 19, 2011 at 05:25 PM
Simple fix? Don't put yourself in those situations.
Kaity Carroll May 19, 2011 at 05:27 PM
Logically, this can't happen. Hepatitis C is transferred through blood which means a needle used on someone with HepC was also used on someone else. Legally, parlors can't do this. Legally, parlors allow the customer to view them setting up their area. So if your piercer isn't wearing gloves, you didn't see them take the ring or needle out of the plastic, then don't make a dumb decision and say, "Sure, shove a needle through my face. I love to catch diseases."
Denise Du Vernay May 19, 2011 at 07:29 PM
Would 12 be too young for that same man's daughter to get her ears pierced? Sexism and double standards go both ways-- if it's not a big deal for tween girls, why is it for boys? Why have simple little holes in earlobes turned into a discussion about tattoos and nipple rings? Before I got my ears pierced (in 5th grade, I think), my mom gave me a little primer. She warned me that the scars would be there forever, even if I let them close and I'd better be okay with that. And she warned me that I'd have to wear the ugly starters for a long time, and then after that, when I babysat or played sports I should take my earrings out. I was okay with these guidelines and I went for it. The exact same information is valid for boys, so I find this talk about "body modification" and Hepatitis C a little over-the-top.
eric May 20, 2011 at 07:40 AM
I cant understand why this is such a big deal still today I got my ear pierced when I was in 6th grade and still have it till this day and I am 30. Its a choice I made and got a lot of rude comments and looks from other people. Why do you care so much what someone else chosses to do or let there children do. If its not for you or your children fine but don't judge what is right or wrong for someone based on what you think is right. That is what is wrong with people today they are to worried about everyone else and telling them what is right or wrong instead of just worrying about them self.
mac June 01, 2011 at 04:50 PM
Humans have been piercing ears for centuries. It's nothing, really. As to schools having strict codes against ear piercing: If done across the board - both genders - perhaps. However, public schools need be very careful not to infringe on anyone's right to free expression. If girls are not banned from earings, why would we even consider banning boys? Can anyone NOT the the sexism inherent in the difference?


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